Sexual Transparency: Yes you heard right .

I was watching a movie recently and a certain intimate scene came up. Now, according to the lady’s post-match analysis to her friend (because yes, we file reports like a proper committee), the gentleman lasted less than a vaccination shot. Damn !!!!!!!

I said… ah what a description!!!

Well that’s not even what caught my attention.

Right after that Olympic sprint, the man casually announces he’s not ready to be a father. The lady, without missing a beat, says, “Relax, it’s mutual that’s why I’m on the pill.”

Now pause.

Because in that one exchange lies a whole thesis on what many of us are not doing: being transparent before the clothes come off.

Ladies and gentlemen, sexual chemistry is not the only thing that should be “hot” in that room, clarity should be too.

We are out here sharing bodies but hiding information like it’s classified state intelligence.

Let’s talk.

If you have a sexually transmitted infection, say it.

If you are ovulating and not trying to surprise anyone with a baby, say it.

If you’re on contraception or not, say it.

This is not oversharing. This is basic adulting with consequences.

Erm beyond the biology, there’s the art ,the experience.

Communication doesn’t end at “are you free tonight?” It extends to:

• What you enjoy

• What you don’t

• Whether you like it slow and sensual or fast and “God, is this a race?”

• Whether you’re vanilla, experimental, or somewhere in the beautifully chaotic middle

Here’s the truth we don’t say enough:

Sex is not meant to be endured like a long church service eiiii I didn’t say that . It is meant to be experienced, explored, and yes enjoyed.

Silence in these spaces breeds confusion, disappointment, and sometimes regret.

But clarity? Clarity creates connection. It builds trust. It saves everyone from unnecessary plot twists.

So next time, before the “action,” let there be a small meeting. No minutes required but full disclosure is highly recommended.

Because nothing ruins the vibe like finding out critical information after the closing ceremony.

Alright, I’m done.

#maloewrites

By Maloe Nartey